A couple in a submission photoshoot
Submission is what puts the S in D/s. Submission isn’t about giving up on your free will. It’s about letting go of control and allowing someone else take over for a while. That can mean anything from letting a partner call the shots in the bedroom to living an entire lifestyle of servitude.

A submissive person, or a sub, will receive pleasure from being dominated and will find being in control an exhausting experience. For a sub, having their partner takes the reins puts them in a relaxing, comfortable place.

Subs still have free will, of course, and can say no or use a safeword when something isn’t to their liking. Just because someone is submissive, doesn’t mean you can treat them like crap!

Watch Whiplr Elite, Ms. Vinyl Queen, on what it means to be submissive: